After being separated for 18mnths, I am pleased to say that my divorce is almost final. After months of trying desperately to get the info I needed from my exhusband to file, I gave up and hired a lawyer in August to do the paperwork for me. Miraculously, my ex was more than willing to give up the info once I got a lawyer involved. I am now in the "waiting period." I filed end of September through the courts, and have to wait 60 days. On day 61, I call the court where they schedule my court hearing to finalize the proceedings. My lawyer informed me that I call every day so I can snag cancellations. I am representing myself during this as I can't afford another two grand for my lawyer to represent me. My ex signed the waiver and had it notarized, so there is no hold on the proceedings. Its just waiting now.
I am so ecstatic to have this over with. I desperately want to move on with my life and close this unpleasant chapter in my life. I also want to only have one husband. That's right. You read that correctly! I have two "husbands" in the eyes of the law at the moment. Apparently in Texas if you represent yourself as married to your significant other more than three times in public, you are considered common law married. Guess what we've been doing for a few months now! This means two things~once my divorce is final, if we decide to break up, we have to file for divorce if we are both not in complete agreement with the break up. Legally, we are required to file for divorce even if we are in agreement. The state of Texas does not consider me married to my ex, even though the proceedings are not finalized yet. I can not legally do anything with him, like filing for taxes, or adding him to my insurance, ect. It's insane.
Things are great with the kids. Jaydn loves his school and is doing superb. The girls are doing really well, and Ryker will start PPCD this week or next week (special preschool class for disabled children.) My stepson is over regularly and has adjusted marvelously to having me around as well as four siblings.
